I waked up late this morning. I promised myself that I must wake up at 8am to have breakfast with family, but I couldn’t. I now make another promise for tomorrow. Hopefully, it will be done.
I have chat with a future cousin-in-law about the wedding and the love. Oh my god, these things are so complicated. The wedding has a lot of trouble in the prepared steps. How can it be done until the deadline? Poor her! I know that, but I can’t help anything. It’s hard for me because I’m standing in the neutral side (I’m the matchmaker). He is my cousin and she is my friend’s sister. And now, when the thing is going to finish, there is another happened. I don’t know how to help them solve these problems. They make the decision themselves and now – there is not little of debated ideas from his family which is mine too. I don’t want to put them into this situation. Everyone said that it’s not my fault but I know that I’m not completely innocent. I know there were several problems which they did without any alerts from me. They may just happen from themselves – their own humanity. When I heard about these things, I couldn’t accept. However, it’s becoming ok now because I know that people is not angel, they may have mistakes. In my opinion, the most important thought is how they improve their behaviour to be better. At the moment, I understand situation, as well as know their feelings and troubles. I just give them some advices that I think that it is suitable for them at this time. This is my experience of matchmaker. Everyone says it is the worst thing to do, but I did – not too many (almost were sad-love-story!).
The other discussion with her is love. I can image that love is too complex to “suffer”. I think that love is the “pink-looking” which everything is lovely, wonderful and happy. But the other sites of love are sadness and worry. She is occurring now and he may be as well (I don’t know exactly what he thinks because he hasn't told me anything, just only her!). According to her, she is totally lost her freedom (?!). There are several cases in which she always cedes the decisions to him. In my mind, love is equal right, even ladies must have a little bit more than guys. From her speech, I feel that my cousin is not really cool as I thought. How can he do this with her? On the other hand, she has some thought that can’t be ignored. She is very jealous. I think it is the norm for all women, but her reaction is over. She’s sniveling for his love all the time. Oh my god, I can't believe that. She’s over 30, and she want him show the love as the 20. I have no ideas about this, but I don’t like it. Love is the private things for only 2 people, and I’m not one of them so… Love is also not the thing to show to everyone. And sometimes she has too unreasonable to request him for something. Her thought about this is normal because (my thought) she wants to show off her love to everyone. But, she forgets that she is VNese and, him too. They live in a VNese cultural society and ancient attitudes. The way of showing love may be restricted so that she can’t reach what she wants and becomes disappointed. She said this is unhappy, but I think she gets bitter about the unsuccessful “show”. I don’t know, that’s just what I think. I gave her advices and try to avoid giving her all comments like this because “it doesn’t cost anything to be polite”.
I don’t know, but in my mind, love is very different to what she said. If someone loves me and I love him too. We must have a straight talk together to understand about what you’re happy or unhappy about the partner. Love is not innocence – it is a consensus from both. The most important factor is not “willing speech but unwilling heart”. Love is never regret because you can’t start again from the beginning with your broken heart and maybe the other's broken one too. I don’t like the way people think love is knowing how to say sorry (because you broke someone’s heart!). Love is not asking the partner doing this for you – it is the volunteer which he/she does it for you without any purpose (which comes from their heart, not their head).
Nice day to think about love and wedding…
The other thing is quite sad. I sent a SMS to friend with the happy-birthday content. Unfortunately, that was not the sweet reply with thanks or ask for the birthday party. It made me feel uncomfortable with “is it my birthday?”. I could be wrong date but I don’t want to receive a kind of “thank” like that. I made once with my nephew but he reply to me very kind - “It’s late, but thank you so much for remember it. Next time go to cinema for my birthday party!”. Next time, I won’t send any “happy” things to anyone…
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